Category Archives: Frazzled Working Mom’s Fleeting Moments (2007-2013)

A Day at the Beach

It was the perfect ending to our too short vacation. A beautiful, sunny day at the beach – collecting shells, riding waves and burying legs in the sand.

The best part of the day, however, was the reason for our trip to the beach. A few weeks ago, I reconnected with a friend of mine from about 28 years ago. Someone I had lost touch with in my pre-teen years and found through LinkedIn last month. We went to meet her and her family, as well as another childhood friend I hadn’t seen since I moved out of town in 6th grade.

We spent much of our time reminiscing about the old days, and names from the distant past that I hadn’t thought about in decades came back to life again. We also caught each other up on our lives since elementary school – we’ve all taken very different paths, endured our share of challenges, and yet for all of our differences, we’ll always share this very special bond of childhood.

Never in a million years would I have guessed that I’d see these two friends again – and here we were – enjoying an afternoon together almost 30 years after the last time we enjoyed an afternoon together. Life is certainly full of pretty incredible surprises…

Dragons in Flight

Chloe drew this picture of dragons the other day. No doubt inspired by her successful go at slaying the dragon during the MagiQuest game at Great Wolf Lodge, she spent a good amount of time creating this tableau of a family of fire-breathing, flying dragons.

Her drawing skills have improved magically over time – it’s pretty cool to see the evolution in her compositions. At the eye doctor today, she drew a family of pirates for the nurse to hang on one of the walls.

The family theme that permeates her artwork is definitely a good thing. They aren’t dysfunctional, psychotic families – just happy families of four. Whether dragons, pirates, bears or other creatures. When I see these images, I’m reassured. We must be doing something right.

Of course, these feelings of child-reading success are often undermined when one of the two little angels starts screaming at us for some perceived slight. At which point I start wondering, with increasing alarm, “what kind of monsters are we raising?”

But this usually doesn’t last too long, and then we’re all back to being lovey-dovey and happy until the next outburst.

On another note, I’m turning 40 in a few months. And every time I remember that I’m turning 40, I realize that Sophie will be starting college when I’m about 55. That’s crazy. When my mom was 55, I was already 31 years old – and pregnant with Chloe. Jeez.

Will my husband and I ever be able to retire? Probably not. Playing the lottery is looking more and more tempting every day.

Pretty Bed

It turns out that Sophie is more adaptable than I thought she’d be – her first night in bed went smoothly. And although she’s loathe to admit it (she still claims to want her crib back), she spent more time playing in her bedroom in the last 24 hours than she’s spent in there the whole year. And most of that time was in her “pretty bed.”

We’ll see how she does tonight. I am not naive enough to think that just because she made it through one night there won’t be some backlash, in the form of middle-of-the-night screams, to her new sleeping arrangements.

The cool thing about not having the crib anymore is that we can read and cuddle together in bed. Just like with Chloe. And she has lots more room for her horse, penguin, big bear, rainbow bear, purple bear, Shirley the lamb, security blanket towels and the various trinkets she likes to hold in her tiny fingers while she sleeps.

Super Sophie!

As promised, here are a few photos from our trip to Great Wolf Lodge. The first is an image of Super Sophie – whose muscles rival those of Popeye’s as she lifts an inner tube over her head.

The second (taken by our nascent photographer, Chloe) gives you a good idea of the craziness of the slides. The blue one was everyone’s favorite, hands-down.

We arrived just at opening this morning, and for about two minutes, Sophie had the “beach” all to herself.

Chloe spent a good deal of time practicing for her future as Tarzan’s Jane.

Finally, there was also a fort. The fort provided hours of fun to kids who thought it a hoot to dump buckets of water on passersby down below. And there are a lot of buckets to dump.

The Portable Piano

Yes, the two girls are fighting over the “piano.” And, no it’s not that Chloe is demonstrating supergirl strength. For now, our piano is still the miniature keyboard with 30 or so keys. And both girls carry it around the house like books.

Sophie and Chloe were having a bit of a scuffle over use of the toy. It goes without saying that whenever Chloe sits down to practice, Sophie is suddenly interested in banging on the keys as well. This inevitably leads to screaming and crying.

Today, however, the screaming led to playing, when Chloe started to hold the keyboard out of Sophie’s reach. Sophie loved this new game, and came up with all sorts of ruses to grab the piano – jumping, a chair lift, stretching…you name it, she tried it. And instead of tears, there were lots of laughs.

Michelin Sophie

I didn’t have my camera with me at the swimming pool today, but that’s ok. Because the Michelin Man in the photo perfectly captures Sophie in the pool.

In order for Sophie to enjoy fun time with the rest of her family in the deep end, she needs to wear paraphernalia to help her keep afloat. Until today, she wore a floatie vest. But she wasn’t confident enough in it to let go of us for more than a millisecond.

Today, however, my dear husband had a brilliant idea. In addition to the vest, he outfitted her with a floatie for each arm – just like Mr. Michelin Man. She was so buoyed, in fact, that she was practically walking on water. Watch out, Moses. Actually, she was well on her way to floating halfway to the moon.

Sophie loved her newfound independence. She was happy to float and float and float. All by herself. She didn’t even get a strand of her curly hair wet. Except for the drops caused by other kids’ splashing. She truly is a girl after my own heart. And who cares that once we remove the floaties she won’t know what hit her – except for all of the water she’ll be swallowing as she gets an involuntary close-up of the pool’s concrete floor?

Vacation!

My first real vacation since starting the new job in January. Am I excited? You bet! Overall, it’s been an interesting, but long, seven months. Lots of challenges – lots of good people – lots of stories.

I’m looking forward to spending some quality time with the girls – if the weather cooperates, we should have an excellent time. The vacation will be capped off next weekend by a visit with my long-lost, but just recently found, friend from 30 years ago, with whom I reconnected after seeing her profile on LinkedIn. Pretty cool, actually.

Other than the Great Wolf Lodge adventure early next week, the other big event is the delivery of Sophie’s big girl bed and new mattress on Thursday. She’s still pretty ambivalent about the whole idea, and she’s going to have a lot of crib separation anxiety. But the time has come. The end of an era and the beginning of a new one…her young life will hereafter be divided into the BB (“before bed”) days and the AB (“after bed”) days.

Multi-Vitamin Madness

Seeing as though I discussed Sophie’s fruit issues yesterday, I figured I’d continue along the same theme tonight and discuss her major issues with multi-vitamins.

I have a pharmacy of kids multi-vitamins in the house, none of which Sophie will eat. Dora, Disney princess, traditional circular prescription vitamins, etc. I also purchased vitamins at Whole Foods – “organic” vitamins. I should have known better. I was afraid they’d be inedible, and indeed, they were absolutely horrendous. I mean, really – kids’ vitamins that taste like fish oil? Needless to say, the bottle of solidified fish oil went immediately into the garbage.

The other bottles, however, reside on the window sill in the kitchen – and I look at them longingly everyday – “Maybe she’ll eat one today,” I hope against hope. And Sophie inevitably teases me. “I’ll have a princess vitmin (sic), Mom.” I obligingly behead one of the princesses (because of her age, she can only eat 1/2 of a vitamin per day) and present it to her on a platter (ok, not literally on a platter, but with a lot of love). She looks at it – she sometimes licks it – makes a funny face and announces, “No vitmin (sic), Mom.”

The only vitamins she’ll eat are what she calls the “baby vitmins (sic).” They are miniature fluoride tablets, and she likes them because they’re cute. I need to find out if multi-vitamins come in miniature versions, too. I will stop at nothing for my children, even if it means making the goddamn vitamins myself…

No Fruit!

Sophie is starting to drive me crazy. She has not been eating much fruit of late – stubbornly refusing, in fact, to have more than a few bites here and there.

What’s so frustrating is that she has historically been a fan of all kinds of fruit- until about 2-3 weeks ago. And she’s smart. Because the more I insist and talk about it, the more she resists – with a smirk. Intellectually, I know I just need to stop talking about it. But I can’t help myself. She needs to listen to her mother, for crying out loud.

I have a confession to make. I resorted to bribery with her for the first time this evening. I allowed her a sip of lemonade for every piece of canteloupe she ate. And it worked – in that she ate more melon than she imbibed juice. But hell, I’m not going to resort to that every time she needs to get some nutritious fruit into her belly. I simply refuse to become that person!